UMarta oneminyaka emibini enesiqingatha ubudala akakaze akuthande ukulala. Ukusukela oko wazalwa, ukumbeka ebhedini yakhe kube yinto enzima kakhulu. Xa "eyiva ivumba", i-alamu yakhe iyakhala aze akhale ngokungathi usesilarheni. Ngobusuku obunye, emva kokuzama iindlela ezininzi (ukucula iingoma ngelixa emfaka ebhedini, emchazela ibali, njl.njl.) ukuze uMarta alale ngaphandle kwento emenza abe nomsindo, abazali bakhe baba nengcamango yokumfaka emotweni baze bamqhube. Ukusukela ngoko, qho ebusuku emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa, abazali bakhe bafaka intombazana encinci emotweni yosapho, kwaye ukujika kabini ebaleni kwanele ukumenza alale. Emva koko babuyela ekhaya, kwaye ngononophelo olukhulu ukuze angaqapheli, bamfaka ebhedini yakhe.
Abazali abaninzi, njengabazali bakaMarta, bafumana ixesha lokulala linzima kakhulu, kwaye benza konke okusemandleni abo ukuze balale abantwana babo, bengazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ebantwaneni babo: abakafundi umkhwa wokulala.
Sonke siyazi ukuba ukutya akufani nokutya kakuhle. Siyavuma nokuba Ukutya ngumkhwa ofundwayo.Xa sele ekhulile, sibeka umntwana esitulweni esiphezulu, simbeke ebhedini, simnike isitya sokutya komntwana kunye necephe. Oko kukuthi, Sisebenzisa uthotho lwezinto zangaphandle (isitulo esiphezulu, ibhedi, isitya sokutya komntwana kunye necephe) ukuba sinxulumanisa nesenzo sokutyaNgaphezu koko, ukususela ngelo xesha, sisoloko sikwenza ngendlela efanayo, nokuba lixesha lesidlo sasemini okanye lesidlo sangokuhlwa, nokuba utyiswa ekhaya okanye kwindawo yokugcina abantwana. Kwaye umntwana wethu ubona ntoni? Udibanisa uthotho lwezinto zangaphandle nesenzo esithile: ukutya. Yiyo loo nto, umzekelo, xa sinxiba ibhedi yakhe, umntwana uqala ukuhamba ngovuyo nangona engaboni ukutya. Uyazi ukuba siza kumondla. Ewe, kuyafana nokulala.
Ngokucacileyo, zonke iintsana ziyalala, kodwa ayingabo bonke abakwaziyo ukukwenza kakuhle. Ezinye iintsana zilala ubusuku bonke ukususela kwinyanga yesithathu okanye yesine ukuya phambili, ngelixa kwabanye ixesha lokulala liba yintlekele, kanti abanye abakwazi ukuhlala belele ubusuku bonke, bevuka kane okanye kahlanu ebusuku.
Ngoko ke, ukuba siyavuma ukuba ukulala kakuhle, njengokutya kakuhle, ngumkhwa ofunyanwa ngumntwana wethu, siza kwenza ntoni ukuze simfundise oku? Siza kugxila, njengakwindlela yokutya, ku:
- Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo (ngabazali okanye abanakekeli)
- Ezinye izinto zangaphandle.
Isimo sengqondo sabazali.
Sele siyazi ukuba, ngokubanzi, abazali bacacile kakhulu ngendlela yokufundisa umntwana wabo ukutya, kwaye ukususela kusuku lokuqala, bafaka lo mkhwa ngendlela efanayo. Nangona kunjalo, okufanayo akunakuthethwa xa kufikwa kwimikhwa yokulala. Xa umntwana elele kakuhle kwasekuqaleni, yonke into ihamba kakuhle, kodwa xa oku kungenjalo, kuqhelekile ukuba abazali bangazi ukuba baziphathe njani, benze ntoni, kwaye bazama izinto ezahlukeneyo befuna into eza kusebenza: ukuba oku akusebenzi, bayazama oko, nako kuyasilela, bazama enye into ngokupheleleyo… Njengoko bezama, ukungazithembi kwabo kuyakhula kwaye kuyabonakala ngakumbi. Baphela bedanile, beziva benetyala, ngokungathi baye basilela njengabazali, bedanile…
Kuthekani ngomntwana?Kaloku, kulula kakhulu: naye uziva engakhuselekanga, okanye nangaphezulu kunabo. Abazali bakhe batshintsha indawo yakhe rhoqo, kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, uqaphela ukuba banoloyiko, ukuba abangoloyiko, kodwa abakhuselekanga kakhulu…
Kwaye, kuba baziva oko bakuvayoUziva engakhuselekanga kakhulu, kwaye asinakulindela ukuba umntwana afunde umkhwa wokulala ukuba asikwazi ukudlulisela ukhuseleko aludingayo ukuze aqonde ukuba ukuhlala ebhedini yedwa aze alale yedwa yeyona nto iqhelekileyo emhlabeni.
Izinto zangaphandle
Kanye njengoko senze ngokutya, sinayo ukudibanisa isenzo sokulala nothotho lwezinto zangaphandle esingenakukwazi ukuyitshintsha okanye ukuyisusa ngelixa umntwana efunda ukulala. Khawuthelekelele ushukumisa umntwana wakho ukuba alale ubusuku ngabunye okanye umkhuphe nge-stroller. Badibanisa ntoni nokulala? Loo ntshukumo yokushukuma, abaya kuyifuna xa uyeka ukumshukumisa aze avuke phakathi kobusuku, kuba yiloo nto bayidibanisa nokulala. Ngamanye amazwi, kuya kufuneka bashukunyiswe ukuze balale kwakhona. Kwaye ekubeni ungasoloko ubashukumisa okanye ubahambisa ubusuku bonke, kuya kwenzeka ntoni xa bevuka? Baya koyika, kwaye okubi ngakumbi, abayi kukwazi ukuphinda balale ngaphandle kokuba bafumane loo mvakalelo kwakhona—loo nto yangaphandle bayidibanisa nokulala.
Okwangoku, zonke izinto zangaphandle esizixubushileyo zinento efanayo: zifuna ukubandakanyeka kwabantu abadala. Umntwana akanakuhambahamba eyedwa nge-stroller, avuke aye kulungisa ibhotile, okanye aphinde azikhuhle emqolo...
Ukuba injongo yethu kukuba umntwana alale yedwa, okanye alale ubusuku bonke, zeziphi izinto zangaphandle esifanele sizidibanise nokulala kwakhe? Kucacile: ezo zinto akufuneki sizisuse.
Okokuqala nokubalulekileyo, kwaye oku kubalulekile : ibhedi yabo, okanye ukuba badala, ibhedi yabo. Akukho ukubalalisa esofeni, ezandleni zakho, ukubakhupha emotweni, okanye ebhedini yakho, kuba kuya kufuneka ubathathe. Xa ubabeka ebhedini, ungabaniki nantoni na efuna ukubakho kwakho, kwaye ungahlali nabo de balale. Nje ukuba le miqathango mibini ifezekiswe, ungabanika nantoni na oyifunayo abanokuyigcina kufutshane kwaye ongayi kuyithatha: i-pacifier yabo, ibhere labo le-teddy, ithoyi yabo abayithandayo… Izinto abanokuthi, ngokungafaniyo nawe, bazigcine nabo ubusuku bonke.
Ngamafutshane , akufanele uncede umntwana wakho alale; oko kukuthi, akufanele uthathe inxaxheba ebonakalayo ekumlaliseni. Kufuneka bafunde ukuzenzela ngokwabo, nangayiphi na indlela abayifunayo.
Apha ngezantsi kukho ividiyo ebonisa iindlela ezimbini ezahlukeneyo ngokupheleleyo : "Ukulala, Usana, Ukulala" vs. "Ukulala Ngaphandle Kweenyembezi." Ngokwembono yam njengengcali kwicandelo lengqondo yabantwana, kwaye ngokwahlukileyo koko ndikubhalileyo ngaphambili, andivumelani nendlela ethi "Ukulala Ngaphandle Kweenyembezi" eyenziwe yingcali yezengqondo uRosa Jove. Le ndlela isebenzisa iindlela zangaphandle ezifuna ukubandakanyeka kwabantu abadala.
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Yintoni ONGAFANELE UYENZIWE ukuze balale
- mculeleni
- Mbethele ebhedini okanye ezingalweni zakho
- Bambani izandla
- Hamba naye nge-stroller okanye emotweni.
- Ukuyichukumisa okanye ukuyivumela ukuba ichukumise iinwele zethu
- Mbethe okanye umbethe ngesandla
- Mnike ibhotile okanye umncancise
- Mbeke ebhedini yethu
- Myeke adlale ade alale ngenxa yokudinwa
- Mnike amanzi
Iingcebiso:
- Lala mntanam. UGq Eduard Estivill kunye noSylvia de Béjar.
Imithombo:
- Lala mntanam. UGq Eduard Estivill kunye noSylvia de Béjar.
- UAlexander, T., uRoodin, uPy kunye noGorman, B.,: Ingqondo yokuguquka kwezinto. Iinguqulelo zikaPirámide. IMadrid. 1980.
- U-ADRIAN, JE (2008). Ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo yomntwana. Imimandla kunye neenkqubo ezisisiseko. Castellon: Upapasho lwe Universitat Jaume I, Universitas Collection 27.
- UBERK, L. (1999). Uphuhliso lwabantwana kunye nolutsha. IMadrid. IPrentice Hall Iberia.
- Imifanekiso evela ku: www.psicoterapiaysalud.com, www.tecnopadres.com, www.parabebes.com