Nangona imimiselo iyimithetho elawula indlela esiziphatha ngayo, ubudlelwane bethu nabantu kunye nokuhlala kwethu kunye, imida ibonisa ukuba indlela esiziphatha ngayo kufuneka ihambe kangakanani ukuze ingaphazamisi eyabanye.
Ngoko ke, yonke iminyaka okanye inqanaba lobomi bomntwana wethu lifuna imithetho nemida . Ngokwengqiqo, oku akufanele kufane nomntwana omncinci nomntwana okwishumi elivisayo: asinakulindela ukuba umntwana ononyaka omnye athathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yasekhaya aze aziphathe ngendlela ethile etafileni, nto leyo ebesiya kuyilindela kumntwana okwishumi elivisayo. Ke ngoko, imithetho nemida iya kusekwa njengoko umntwana wethu eqhubeka nokukhula kwakhe, kunye nolindelo lokuthobela imithetho.
Kutheni sifanele sibeke imithetho nemida?
- ngenxa yezizathu zempilo
- ngenxa yezizathu zokhuseleko
- ngenxa yezizathu zokuhlala ndawonye
- ukuhlala ngoxolo
- ngemilinganiselo yokuziphatha.
Ukukhetha imithetho yethu:
Simele simisele imithetho efanele ilawule iintsapho zethu kunye nezabantwana bethu . Ukhetho luya kusekelwa kwimithetho esiyidluliselwe ngabazali bethu kunye nabo sibaphuhlisileyo ubomi bethu bonke, kunye naleyo yoluntu esihlala kulo.
Kuyo yonke amava ethu njengabazali, ngokuqinisekileyo siye sadibana nobunzima bokwenza abantwana bethu balandele imithetho esiyifundisayo. Zikho izinto esinokuzenza ukuze sibathobele, kwaye ukuze senze njalo, siza kuqwalasela la manqaku alandelayo.
- Simele siqonde: Imithetho nemida kufuneka imiselwe ngokucacileyo nangendlela eqondakalayo: Simele sicinge ngendlela yokunika imiyalelo ecacileyo necacileyo. Abantwana kunye nolutsha kufuneka beve baze bazi kakuhle ukuba baziphatha njani.
- Siza kuvumela abantwana bethu ukuba baveze izimvo zabo: Abantwana, ingakumbi abakwishumi elivisayo, bayakuxabisa ukubonisana nabo xa bebeka imida. Xa abantwana besebenzisana, banokubathobela. Nangona kunjalo, ukubaphulaphula akuthethi ukuba kufuneka sivumelane nabo size sitshintshe imithetho. Ngenxa yoko, singamisela eminye imithetho kunye nemida nabo, ngelixa eminye kuya kufuneka sizimisele thina, sizalisekise uxanduva lwethu njengabazali.
- Siza kuchaza isizathu.Abantwana kunye nolutsha bathambekele ekuthobeleni imithetho kunye nemida ngakumbi xa beqonda izizathu zayo: "Awunakuphuma kule mpelaveki kuba..." ngumthetho ongenangcaciso, ngelixa "Awunakuhlala ulele kude kube sebusuku kule mpelaveki kuba unoviwo ngoMvulo" kuquka ingcaciso. Ukwazi ukuba kukho ingcaciso enengqondo emva kwayo yonke imithetho kunye nemida kuya kunceda abantwana bethu basithobele.
- Zimisele ngaphambi kokuba uzisebenzise: Siza kuzama ukungasebenzisi imithetho engalindelekanga. Siza kwenza konke okusemandleni ethu ukuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana bethu bayayazi imithetho ngaphambi kokuba bayaphule. Umntwana wethu ufanele azi njani ukuba akanakukhwela ibhayisekile esixekweni okanye ahlale ngaphandle ebusuku ngaphambi koviwo ukuba asikayixeleli kwangaphambili? Abantwana bethu kufuneka bayazi imithetho nemida kwangaphambili.
- Siza kukukhumbuza ngazo rhoqo.Abantwana kunye nolutsha ngamanye amaxesha bayalibala imithetho. Ukuba siqaphela ukuba umntwana wethu ulibale umthetho, asiyi kulinda ukuba kubekho iingxaki; siya kuzikhumbuza ngobubele. Kodwa ukuba umntwana wethu uwulibala ngaphezu kwezihlandlo ezibini okanye ezintathu kwaye izikhumbuzo zethu ziba yinto eqhelekileyo, siya kuzama ukuqonda okwenzekayo size senze izinto ngendlela efanelekileyo, eqinileyo, nangokungaguquguqukiyo.
- Kungcono ukuba nethemba kunokungalungi: Nanini na xa kunokwenzeka, siza kuzama ukwenza imithetho yethu ibe mihle kunokuba ibe mibi. Oku kunceda abantwana baqonde ngokucacileyo indlela yokuziphatha echanekileyo. Imizekelo: "Ungadlala ibhola ngaphandle" endaweni yokuthi "Musa ukudlala ibhola ngaphakathi" okanye "Hlamba izandla zakho ngaphambi kokuba uhlale etafileni" endaweni yokuthi "Musa ukuza etafileni unezandla ezingcolileyo."
Simele siqaphele ukuba imithetho, imida, kunye noqeqesho zizinto ezibalulekileyo ekwakheni ubuntu.
Izixhobo:
- Phakathi kokunyamezelana nokuziqeqesha. M. Herbert.
- Ukufundisa ilungu losapho. UJosé M.ª Quintana.
- Isikhokelo sokukhulisa abantwana ngengqeqesho nothando. M. Gootman.
- Imifanekiso: http://padres.giftandtask.org, http://pequelia.es, http://convivecaridad.blogspot.com, http://www.wikisaber.es